Hoping for a lovely week ahead as Valentine's Day is my favorite holiday of all! Not because of the romantic or commercialism built up around it, but because of why it began and the reminder it gives us all. For me Valentine's Day is a reminder to all the love in the world and a time for self-reflection on all the ways I can give more love to others around me.
As a parent, I think at times we can become so busy in the everyday motions of life and even the stresses that take our minds and hearts away from what matters. We have so much going on and our little ones many times take the brunt of our lack of time, or in many cases lack of love... it sounds bad, but for children our time is really what they crave and shows them that we love them.
If you have ever read "The Five Love Languages for Children", you may discover that your child has a certain love language. The five love language are physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, and acts of service. One of those five is the primary love language of your child. If you don’t speak that language, your child will not feel loved. This does not mean that you speak only the primary love language. No, you give heavy doses of their primary love language, then you sprinkle in the other four. To learn more you can read the book or check out the website below.
Here is a great start this week on how we can use words to tell our children we love them!
64 Positive Things to Say to KidsMay this list inspire you to turn to your child and say something like:
This list comes from this article: https://bouncebackparenting.com/64-encouraging-things-to-say-to-kids/
I invite you to learn more about your child's love language, even have a heart to heart with them and see if they know it. I just asked my kids and they can tell me. It is amazing how well they know themselves. And it is truly amazing once you know your child's love language, how you can grow your relationship with them. All of our children of course need our time, our touch, our service, our positive words, and a gift, but some need one more than the other. Thank you for taking the time to have this heart to heart and learn more about your child.